Should I Have Kids?
Your Honest Guide to Deciding If Parenthood Is Right for You
Stop Googling. Start reflecting. Tools, stories, and resources designed to help you make this life-defining choice with confidence.
We are developing a suite of tools and resources that help you make an informed decision whether to have children or not.
A Personal Journey of Discovery
The question of whether to have children or not is one of the most personal and complex decisions in life. For some, the answer is clear. For others, the freedom to choose feels overwhelming.
If you find yourself stuck between possibilities, filled with questions, doubts, and hopes, you're not alone - and you're not broken. You're simply taking the decision seriously.
At KidsOrNot, we're building a space where you can explore this question without pressure or judgment. You'll find thoughtful tools, honest stories, and expert guidance to help you understand what truly matters to you.
The first resources are launching soon. Join the early access list to be among the first to try our self-reflection tools and decision-making guides.
This is your choice. We're here to help you make it with clarity and confidence.
We are developing a suite of tools and resources that help you make an informed decision whether to have children or not.
Frequently Asked Questions
Should I have kids or not?
That's a deeply personal question, and there's no universal answer. KidsOrNot helps you explore your values, fears, dreams, and life circumstances so you can make an informed and authentic choice.
Is it normal to not want children?
Yes. Many people choose to live fulfilling lives without becoming parents. Our platform will include honest stories from people who are childfree by choice and those who still feel uncertain.
How can I know if I'll regret not having kids?
While no tool can guarantee the future, our decision framework will help you explore common fears, long-term desires, and the role regret plays in major life choices. We will also offer reflections from people at different life stages.
Is there a quiz that helps decide if parenthood is right for me?
Yes! KidsOrNot is working on a nuanced quiz designed to surface your priorities, values, and unconscious biases, not to label you, but to support deeper self-reflection.
Is KidsOrNot only for women?
No. We want to address the question for everyone: women, men, and non-binary people alike. While societal pressure often weighs more heavily on women, we welcome anyone, regardless of gender or background, who is exploring the question of becoming a parent.
Is KidsOrNot for individuals or couples?
KidsOrNot is designed for individuals. While the decision whether to have kids or not is often a joint one, we believe that each person should make this decision for themselves, based on their own values, beliefs, and life circumstances. Whether you're single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between, KidsOrNot is here to support you in your journey.
What if I'm still unsure after using the tools?
That's okay. Clarity takes time. You'll receive guidance on how to keep reflecting, talk to partners or therapists, and return to the tools whenever needed.
Who created KidsOrNot?
KidsOrNot is an independent project by Tassilo Weber, a decision coach and technologist. It's designed with empathy, backed by experience and research, and built for people who want to live deliberately.